I have a tendency, on my birthday to reflect on “what hasn’t happened yet.” To reflect on the unaccomplished, and be sad about all that has yet to be done. Yes, today I am turning 39 years old, and I wonder, where in the world the time went. I know, I know, I am supposed … More All that I am – thirty-nine
I have found that while these feelings are uncomfortable, accepting those unfavorable feelings gives me clarity. But I always try to skip steps. … More Skip the Pain
A conversation with a friend: Me: You’re a man, maybe you can tell me what’s wrong with me and why I can’t draw in anyone special. My friend: There’s not a damn thing wrong with you. All you got to do is be yourself. I’ve known for quite some time what the theme for this … More Who Are You??
If we can’t forgive someone else or ourselves, compassion is the next best thing. -Melody Beattie A few days before last New Year’s Eve, I was trying to update an app on my iPhone, but my phone was running low on memory. I took a look at the apps I still had on my phone … More Step Outside of Yourself to Give Yourself Compassion
Today I choose to forgive all those who have hurt me, not for their sake but for mine. -Rokelle Lerner I have been reflective about the concept of Forgiveness… Shortly after my father passed away, toward the end of 2003, I dated a guy that was verbally abusive. I dated this guy for about 6 … More A Gentle Push Toward Forgiveness
“Acceptance is not about liking a situation. It is about acknowledging all that has been lost and learning to live with that loss.” -Elizabeth Kubler-Ross & David Kessler from On Grief and Grieving The final “aspect” of grief is Acceptance. And this makes me wonder if life isn’t just one big ‘ole ball of grief … More Accept that LOVE is Enough – Acceptance (Grief Stage 5)
“As tough as it is, depression can be dealt with in a paradoxical way. See it as a visitor, perhaps an unwelcome one, but one who is visiting whether you like it or not. Make a place for your guest. Invite your depression to pull up a chair with you in front of the fire, … More Loving Me Sadly – Depression (Grief Stage 4)